Keeping it real…

There are so many opportunities in day to pretend to be something or someone that you aren’t, but have you ever thought. If I had to meet someone, for instance, the love of your life, what do you want them to see?

Do you want them to see the real you, the part of you that overreacts sometimes, makes innapropriate jokes and is a hell of a human being! OR do you want them to see the watered down, boring part of you. I’ve pretty much decided early on in my life that if people cannot accept me for who I am, then I don’t need them in my life. 
Personally I know how it feels to want people to see the best of you and to want to impress other people. Then I came to the best conclusion yet! Those who can see your “real” personality and love it, they are the ones that have also seen exactly what you are worth. Those are the people you need to be in your life. If they can handle you the way you are, and treat you with respect and handle you with care and dignity then you got a friend.

People go through things, tough times, everyone does. If your anything like my flawed self, you won’t always handle conflict or situations right. I have had my fair share of breakdowns and tantrums througout the years, but one thing I can say is that I’ve learnt how to handle every situation better. I can always take a situation and through self realization I could determine how I can handle it better next time. 

We need to be patient with one another and realize that giving up on a friendship or relationship, just because it’s a little tough is not a good enough reason to give up. I’m not saying you have to ignore red flags, not at all, of there is something major that you know you will never be able to live with. Or if you’re in a toxic relationship, get out !!! 

If your dealing with conflict the best way to start is to pray. Pray that you are led to treat the person with respect and that they treat you with respect and then you can even pray for the right words🙏 This is the approach that I have decided on taking when I find myself in a difficult situation with a friend or boyfriend.

Never ever let anyone tell you, that you are too much to handle or talk to you in any condescending way that attacks your character or who you are! Cause I’m here to tell you, once again, that you are more than worthy of all the happiness in this world. If like me you believe in God, He cries when you doubt yourself, because he has made everyone of us unique in his image ❤ How amazing is that! So stopit! Believe in your beauty and know that your experiences have shaped who you are. Forgive others, and most importantly, forgive yourself, Please!
Stay strong, and be bold enough to stand up for yourself. Cause the truth is when you’re alone and no one is around, all you have is YOURSELF. So make the time worth it and give yourself credit for all the things you have accomplished. Learn and grow in the things that are important to you.

Fill your time with mindfullness and confidence and do not, I repeat, DO NOT DOUBT YOURSELF. Get rid of the old and begin living in the new. Be positive and give to others* 

You may be in a tough situation where it’s easy to lose focus and fall back into bad habits, but don’t be that person. The other day I actually said something to a friend of mine, that made me think. I told her that God won’t open a better door for you after closing a bad one, just to close it again. He is such a loving father, and the sooner you realize that the better door is yours, the quicker you will find peace and start enjoying things you may be overthinking.💆🙏

Enjoy your life, keep your mind busy with constructive thoughts and remove the destructive over-analyzing ones. I have been struggling with this concept for a very long time, but since I became more mindfull with what I allow in my thoughts the more peace and clarity I am experiencing! 

Please stop over-analyzing and freaking yourself out over things that are not in your control. Keep an open mind, lead with an open heart and stay grounded by keeping it real✌
Xoxo Dan the Wooman