I was recently made aware of the characteristics a man of my dreams should have, and I’m pretty sure you also have a picture in your mind.
The picture in each of our minds as women is constantly shaped by good experiences, bad experiences and strange experiences. We all have something we regret doing, or not doing. Either way we all have a picture and this picture is broadened by the type of authoritative figures we had as children.
So I’m here to tell you to never ever settle. Life is too short to waste on the wrong people, especially life partners. I don’t know whether some people understand how excruciating it would be to live the rest of their lives with the wrong person.
A ‘GODLY MAN’ is what we should be on the lookout for. I say on the lookout because as Godly women we need to remember that we don’t persue, they do.
Putting all your trust in the Lord is so important for us to receive the blessings He has in store for us.
Secondly we need to understand that we are not in control, its actually quite the contrary. God is always in control. We want to believe we are ultimately the decision makers, but He has a way of bringing us back to the reality that our lives are in HIS hands.
Knowing who you are in Christ is key before even starting to think about any type of relationship. Being content with who you are, what your talents are and all you’re capable of. You may be thinking that this sounds like a egotistical outlook, but its quite the opposite. As you are identifying gifts that the Lord has given to you and in turn you can be grateful and use these in honour of his name.
But back to relationships and Godly men. A man that is sensitive towards you and understands you, is key. This I have learnt from looking at my parents relationship, my mother has what’s called Myesthenia Gravis, it’s a motor neuron illness. She started losing function of some of her muscles, which in turn lead to her becoming so sick in my last year of school, which almost ended in her passing away. During this time my father did everything for her and even tried to relieve the pain she had by using pressure points. He brought her flowers and he prayed for her every single day. This is why I’m saying pick someone you can see will be there for you through thick and thin. The good and bad times, and if you’ve found him don’t let him go.
I know lots of men do not always think about doing the small things, but as a Godly woman I can seriously say that the small stuff is what makes the biggest impressions. A woman wants to feel that she is special and unlike any other. Godly MEN should also note, if a woman only appreciates the big gestures and seems unthankful for the small things and expects something back from you she isn’t in the relationship for you.
Balance in Godly relationships should be constantly checked, cause seeking God first is the first step to resolving issues or conflicts. Everything should be solved through and with the Lord, and I know this may sound airy fairy but in actual fact this is the best way to resolve conflicts. Like I mentioned before, trusting in the Lord with everything and giving him all of your worries and doubts is the best thing you can do to receive his blessing.
This blog post is one so close to my heart and I really hope that reading this will give you the patience to wait for the right man. Also remember that God’s timing is not our timing. He will give you the blessings in his time and not yours 💙
Xoxo Dan the Wooman